On a very lovely and warm weekend, I noticed that my husband was constantly on the go.
He would not stop and this worried me as I have noticed that this was a recurring theme with him and out of personal experience I know it does not have a good outcome.
So I made two glasses of cold drinks and asked him to join me outside just for a few minutes.
We sat down and not one minute later he got up and started weeding the garden, to which point I said to him “ I give you permission to ‘stop’ for just a few minutes”.
He stared at me with a puzzled look on his face and said “ why do I need your permission to stop?”
An understandable reaction and my response surprised him “ Because you don’t give it to yourself”.
Let that sink in for a moment
We live in a society that expects a lot from us, they want us to be perfect in every way, or at least appear to be and there is the extra social expectation of ‘ no complaining and keep going’.
This puts a whole lot of pressure on us to keep preforming at a high level. Not to mention the amount of pressure we put on ourselves due to what we think people expect from us.
We are all focused on having that perfect job, the perfect house, family, look and so forth. I’m exhausted just thinking about it.
But that is not all, we are also expected to document this perfect life on social media and be instantly available when someone sends us a message, e-mail or call.
So just to revise: perfect, perfect, perfect and always readily available.
That is why you need to stop by taking a break
You need to recharge your batteries and take care of yourself
So my questions to you are:
Do you give yourself permission to slow down and take a break, guilt free?
Do you give yourself permission to come first?
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