It is important to understand how our mind works. Self-mastery begins with the understanding of how our minds functions.
It would be difficult to create any kind of balance within our lives if our minds are in chaos.
Mastery over our thoughts and our emotions will helps you to function in a healthier way.
How does our mind work
It is basically broken up into 3 sections, you have your emotional mind, your rational mind, and your wise mind.
Understanding how they work separately, will help you to figure out how they can best work together.
How our 3 minds work
The emotional mind
A person who thinks with their emotional mind often makes decisions about what makes them feel good.
They tend to focus on the emotions and tend to be more reactive in their responses.
An emotional thinker can come across defensive because their feelings are in control of their thoughts and behavior.
Some common traits of an emotional thinking person are:
Unfocused with their thoughts
Strong intuition or gut feelings
Empathetic and have a lot of compassion
Do not generally work with facts, but with what they believe to be the truth or at least their perception of the truth
Can be impulsive
Have little consideration of consequences
The rational mind
People who use their rational mind often make decisions based on what makes intellectual sense.
They tend to be solely focused on logic and facts and usually compares current experiences with their past experiences.
A rational minded person always approaches a situation with an intellectual way of thinking, for instance, they are planners, and they usually create plans based on facts and can sometimes be to the detriment of productivity or effectiveness.
Some common traits of a rational thinking person are:
Usually, they suppress or ignore their emotions
View situations from a removed or disassociated point of view
Keep calm in situations where most people would be upset
Are able to see a situation from all sides
Tend to weigh all the pros and cons as well as thinking about cause and effect
They can get stuck in an opinion or in a debate
They are usually uncompromising and love rules and regulations
The wise mind
People who operate within the wise mind often come across as mature.
Because they have found that balance between feeling and logic.
This means that they honor and nurture their emotional side, while at the same time, tries to act rationally.
Some common traits of a wise mind:
Appear to be grounded
Incorporate intuition into their decisions
They are able to evaluate their behaviors and reactions
Have good healthy personal boundaries
They are able to slow down their decision-making process in order to resist any impulse urges
Remain calm when feeling attacked or confronted
Participate in life in a more peaceful and pleasurable way
Contain self-sabotaging beliefs as well as thoughts, feelings, and habits
Can cope with painful life events
How to achieve a wise mind:
The short answer is, it takes practice.
The more you practice the easier it becomes.
It’s a question of trial and error and finding that balance between emotions and thinking, using your intuition as a guide.
Be careful not to be brought out of balance through uncomfortable emotions such as anxiety, depression, anger, shame, or guilt, just to name a few.
If you do experience any of these emotions, it will be an excellent moment to try and activate your wise mind and do your best to get back into balance.
When you start to practice this, you will begin to feel more confident.
This is not to say that you won’t be making any mistakes or that you will be completely back into balance, but it will mean that you can trust your capabilities to get back into balance.
So, just remember to keep at it. Just keep going.
Practice and you will find it easier and easier to identify your triggers.
You will find that your responses will be in more in balance wit the situation instead of out of proportion.
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